Friday, December 16, 2005
I was reading this post over at the Bored Housewives Network, and I started to respond in comments, but it got kinda long, so I'm posting here instead.
I'm married to a mostly secular Jew (albeit one who celebrates Christmas), so I do have some sense of how you feel. My dh is not overly anti-Christmas, but I think he keeps a certain distance from it. One of the things I've learned over time is that there are things that he will do just to keep me happy (like getting and decorating a tree), and things that I won't ask him to do to keep him happy (like watching Christmas movies all day, which he would absolutely not be down for).
I think it helps that I help him celebrate not just Hanukkah (an only-mildly-important Jewish holiday), but also Passover, Yom Kippur and Rosh Hashanah (the big three). And that, even though I'm celebrating Christmas, I'm not a religious person at all (or a Christian). For both of us, the celebration of these holidays is really more about a celebration of our culture, than it is about faith (and yes, mine is the culture of commercialization while his is the culture of fasting).
Like any marriage or long-term partnership, it's all about the compromises.
• Posted By landismom @ 12/16/2005 11:03:00 AM • • •